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This website has been created to help those living with domestic abuse to recognise the symptoms, and to find support services to help them change their situations, whether that is leaving or staying.  We also have a growing section for professionals with information on services, agencies and procedures to ensure they can give the best possible support to their clients.

 If you are affected by domestic abuse and you need help quickly:

  • If you or your family are in immediate danger, ring 999 and ask for help.

  • The National Domestic Violence Helpline is an emergency freephone 24 hour number - call 0808 2000 247 for help and if you need urgent access to refuge services.

  • Don't accept Domestic Abuse! You are not alone, get the help you need by using the links on this web-site.

Domestic abuse is a common (but unfortunately hidden) issue, where people of either gender – adults, teenagers and children suffer or are forced through physical, emotional, financial or other manipulation to change their behaviour by those who should be most supportive of them; girlfriend or boyfriend, husbands, wives or civil partners, partners, ex partners, or family members - for example parents, siblings or relatives in law. 

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  • Abusive son made me feel like a battered wife

    A WOMAN who was routinely bullied, intimidated and physically assaulted over the course of 15 years by her son, spoke to the Essex Echo about the physical and psychological abuse she suffered. She admitted being terrified to report the abuse as a result of the threats he made to her. She said: “I was terrified he’d kill me. He used to hit me and on one occasion he held a knife to my throat...made me feel like a battered wife.” Read more here about how the mother from Essex eventually managed to get help.

  • There should be help for all victims of Domestic Abuse, regardless of gender.

    Ian McNicholl a victim of serious domestic abuse himself writes in the Telegraph's Thinking Man pages that we must stop looking at domestic abuse as something that only happens to women. Ian McNicholl is an ambassador of the ManKind Initiative charity and his words are in response to an article by Polly Neate, the chief executive of Women’s Aid entitled "Domestic abuse could not be further from gender neutral. Wake up Britain".

    Ms Neate's comments came after Professor Sylvia Walby, professor of sociology and Unesco chair of gender research at Lancaster University, called on the Office for National Statistics (ONS) to urgently examine the way it measures domestic abuse in the UK, because the number of times each person can be counted as a victim of crime is currently capped at five, effectively ignoring the repeat victimisation of victims.

    Read more about these issues in the Telegraph here

  • Coercive Control: do you understand it and how would you detect it?

    The Guardian's Social Care Network explores how professionals need to develop their understanding of coercive and controlling behaviour and asks what is being put in place to help frontline professionals understand the thresholds for taking action. Jane Monckton-Smith is a former police officer and senior lecturer in criminology at the university of Gloucestershire she argues that coercion and control are at the very heart of how an abuser operates. “The abuser exerts control, but violence is just one method of control .. lots of homicides happen without prior violence.” She also says that "getting people to understand the dynamics of coercive control is 'a big hill to climb'. Read the article on the Guardian website here

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